Giving Myself Permission
Posted on November 28, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
It is amazing how many of my clients limit themselves in their dreams because they do not have any idea of HOW they will achieve them. The reality is:
When you gain clarity on WHAT you want, the HOW will show up.
What do you want?
Write out one specific goal you would like to achieve
What will MY goal look like when I accomplish it
Posted on July 18, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Do you have a tremendous amount of mind chatter that goes on beneath the surface? Many people have self talk conversations that are negative abusive statements such as “you should”, “why did you do that” and “what is wrong with you?” These can lead to feelings of stress and overwhelm as we try and quiet the mind. Wouldn’t it be nice to speak with gentleness and kindness to yourself? To be loving and respectful of all you say and do.
Posted on May 30, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Are you overwhelmed with the number of decisions that you have to make? Are many of them appealing and hard to prioritize? Here are 7 quick and easy steps to help you find the answer that is best for you by tuning into your intuition.
1) Give yourself permission to take the time you need to really make the right decision - i.e. do not rush. The world will be better served when you are clear about what action to take.
Posted on March 28, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
AND I did not recognize it immediately.
Posted on March 21, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
How often do you outline the things you need to change in your life order to feel better? The truth is, we only have this moment in time to do anything. We can plan for the future - in this moment. However, in this moment, we can only do what we can do NOW.
Posted on March 14, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Over the last couple of weeks I have written and spoken to you about how to take care of yourself even when you don't have time.
Most often times people will say time, or money, or energy are the things that get in the way.
In my video blog today, I am approaching this from a bit of a different angle.
I would love to hear your thoughts about what is getting in your way.
Posted on January 17, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Sometimes, it is hard to keep upbeat and positive when things are conspiring against you.
Posted on November 22, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
How many of you live your life by "SHOULDS"?
By shoulds I mean those expectations that come from a wide variety of sources:
- Parents and other members of our family
- Friends with all of their best of intentions
- Media - TV, books, internet - all with advice from the so-called "experts" on how you should live your life
- Self - all of your expectations about how you should "think", "do" and "be"
Posted on November 15, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Posted on July 26, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
As a mom, there was nothing more challenging for me that finding the balance between my career and my family. I was working full time as a nurse in the Intensive Care Unit when my son was born. I took a maternity leave for 3 months to be at home with him. The thought of leaving him in a day care after that time was too much to bear. My husband’s job was in transition and this created the opportunity for me to stay at home full time with our son. We were incredibly lucky to have this happen.
Posted on June 21, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Years ago I read a book - "How to be your own best friend". I do not remember the author but I do remember how the concept intrigued me. It is amazing how often I would speak to myself in a way I would not speak to my enemies let alone a best friend. Our mind chatter or inner critic that dwells within can be very abusive. How about you? Do you have an inner critic that likes to tell you what more you should have done or could have done if only you were more committed, more enlightened, more organized etc.
How often do you give yourself a pat on the back, tell yourself you did a good job, or sing your praises to others? If you are like most of my clients, you never or rarely give yourself any acknowledgement for a job well done. Do you suffer from the "not enough" syndrome? What this means is, no matter how hard you work or how good you are, you will never be enough, do enough or have enough to feel good enou
Posted on June 16, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
How often do you reveal your true self to the world?
The inner dialogue that many people have is “if people really know who I am, what I am thinking and what I am feeling, they would not like me”. This is called “imposter syndrome”. We feel like imposters in our lives because the way we present ourselves to the world has to look a certain way but is not really who we are. We fear that if our true nature were revealed we would be ridiculed or ignored.
Posted on June 9, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
When you look at your whole life, do you feel you need a major overhaul or just need a minor tune up?
Posted on May 20, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Making this a reality for you Family
When you look ahead to summer, the knowledge that there will be less structure to your days can be very appealing. Imagining lazy days of sitting in the back yard or at the beach relaxing and enjoying the company of family and friends tends to dominate our thoughts.
What does your ideal summer look like?
Posted on May 13, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Do you know who you are and what is important to you?
Posted on March 30, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
How many times have you heard yourself telling the same story over and over about how this thing or that thing is not working in your life? Do you feel like a broken record? What are you doing to make things different in your life?
Posted on March 17, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Do I want to be stressed or not stressed – that is my question.
How can I have my business, be with my family and live the life I want within the context of my current day reality? There are so many demands from different aspects of my life that I often get pulled in a zillion different directions. I was under the misguided belief that if my children were grown and gone from the house that I would not have anything that would get off balance. Was I ever mistaken, I have a whole life that I want to keep healthy and strong. This means I need to pay attention to the many facets of my life. I have a great husband and I want to nurture that relationship. I have wonderful children whom I want to stay in contact with. I have great friends whom I want to stay connected with and I have my body, mind and emotions that I want to be respectful of. My choice is simple however, do I want to fully be in my life, loving what is and being present in all that I do? Or, do I want to try and do more, be more, accomplish more because I should.
Posted on February 19, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Have you ever played bridge? When the players finish bidding they arrive at a suit that is called trump. Trump suits win every time, no matter if you have the highest card in the deck. What I noticed this last week is that Real Life held the trump card over my musings on the beach.
Where have I been
Posted on January 19, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
If you were to sit back today and take stock of your whole life, how are you doing? Take some time and look at the following categories. Write a list of the things you would like to complete in each of these areas. This list is not meant to stress you out but to bring into your conscious awareness the things in your life that you know need some attention. By being more aware of these areas, you can then set up a plan of what you can do to take care of them day by day.
Posted on October 20, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
When do you know that you are living your truth? What does that even mean? In my last couple of blogs I have written about developing a relationship with yourself i.e. “Who are you” and finding out “what is important to you” i.e. your truth. In my coaching practice, I spend many sessions with clients helping them to discover the answers to these two questions. However, as many come to realize, it is not enough to know who you are and what is important to you. How do you make it a reality in your life – how do you live your truth?
Posted on October 13, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
In my last blog, I asked you to take a look at your relationship with yourself. Have you started taking time to just be with yourself, taking your intentional breaths and connecting with you? I know it takes time, but when you begin the journey of self-discovery and start developing that relationship with you, it is hard to close the door again.
Posted on October 6, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Have you been asking yourself this question? What answers have you come up with?
For many of us, when we are asked “who are you” we answer with a description of our various roles. These roles often include our family status “I am a wife, a mother, sister, aunt, uncle, brother and so on”. Some people describe themselves by their occupation “I am a nurse, teacher, secretary, business man, plumber” and others describe themselves by their sports or hobbies such as “I am a golfer, runner, hockey player, artist and so on”. Others may describe themselves by how they interact with the world “I am happy, fun, connected, loving, inspirational, creative” and any other words that describe their personality.
Posted on September 2, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
As the children head back to school after a long summer off many parents welcome the change. However, with this change comes the need to get back into the routine. There are dance classes, hockey practices, piano lessons, as well as the need for time for homework, getting to bed earlier, making healthy lunches, healthy dinners, and somehow in the midst of everything creating some quality family time.To top it all off, our work environments also pick up speed in September. Most people are back to work after summer vacation and the workplace hums with new ideas, projects, additional workload and other things. Are you ready for the change? How do you want this school year to be for your children? How do you want this time to be for you? Creating the balance you want can be challenging. All of these demands can lead to stress on the family, on you and your relationships.
Posted on August 21, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
What does your ideal life look like? If you were to carry on living your life like you are today, will you feel fulfilled and satisfied in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years? What is getting in the way of you living the life you want? What is your relationship like with yourself? These are some of the questions that I ask my clients when they come in and see me. Many people feel dissatisfied with their life as they know it, yet feel powerless at changing it.
The exercise of looking at how you are currently living your life and how disconnected you are from what you want can be quite eye opening.
Posted on August 4, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Summer is here and in full swing. The urge to sit back, relax and do nothing is strong. Yet I have many things that I need to DO.
I have to admit, I have never liked working in the summer. It probably stems from when my kids were home and I found the summer was a time to connect with them, relax and enjoy the summertime pace. Once school started back in September there was a lot of craziness in trying to balance their school, my work, extracurricular activities, driving them everywhere all the while trying to stay fit, healthy, relaxed and NICE. Even now that my children are grown and out of the house, the relaxed pace of summer is nice.
Posted on July 30, 2009 12:00:00am, by Jarrod Goddard
Many of us know that we want to create a vision for ourselves so we can get to where we want to in our lives. Yet somehow, developing this vision is easier said than done. What does visioning look like? In my last post I outlined a process to guide you in developing a vision of where you want to be. Today I will give you an example of how I applied this formula as I have set out goals for where I want to be in my business.
Posted on July 13, 2009 03:39:41pm, by Jarrod Goddard
I woke up this morning and realized I have been in a bit of a fog. I have been working hard getting content developed for my new website being launched in August, writing newsletters, recording podcasts etc. I have been getting an amazing amount done but yet somehow I have been feeling a little disconnected.
Posted on July 7, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
I have had a few people email me about my posts “Giving Yourself Permission to be Negative” and “Shining Light on the Shadow”. They raised the question about when is enough enough so that the “Law of Attraction” does not become attracted to the negative energy you are releasing. To make it clear – giving yourself permission to be negative is a way of releasing the energy that gets built up in your system when you do not express it. It is like trying to keep a cork on a bottle of carbonated soda you have just shaken. Allowing the pressure to escape will result in a calm presence in the bottle afterwards. If however, you do not release the pressure, it can take a long time for the pressure to release.
Posted on July 3, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Many of us live in fear of something. Fear that we will be rejected, fear of what people will think or feel about us, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of being alone, fear of being in relationship etc. This fear sits like a shadow or cloud over our heads that we know and feel is there but we are too often scared to look at.
Posted on June 30, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
I have written before about giving yourself permission and even outlined 24 things I would do if I gave myself permission to. Yet in the last couple of weeks, I have seen more evidence of how many ways we hold ourselves back in life because we do not give ourselves permission.
Posted on June 22, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
How many of you know what it means to be grounded? What does it look like for you?
Being grounded is knowing I am here, in my body, in this space and time, in this moment. I am present in my life – NOW.
Posted on June 16, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Well today is a day where I know I need to “Let it go“. As I look at my list of things to do and find myself scattered in getting them accomplished I realize that I have many “should’s” on my plate. It is time to let it go.
Posted on June 11, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
I just had the opportunity to read a great blog about limiting beliefs by Kim de Young of Metromom. It is worthwhile reading for any of you who know that your subconscious beliefs get in the way of moving forward. She has a great way of sharing her insights. http://metromom.com/MetromomBlog/2009/06/10/women-entrepreneurs-are-limiting-beliefs-holding-you-back/
Posted on June 5, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
This past weekend, we attended the funeral for a colleague and friend of my husband. I had met him a couple of times over the years and I knew his wife casually. It was a sad day. He left behind a wife and two young children as well as a whole community of family and friends. As I sat in the church listening to the words spoken about this man, I was reminded of Stephen Covey’s “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” when he suggests “we begin with the end in mind”. What legacy do you want to leave behind? This man had lived life fully, he played hard, worked hard and loved his family deeply which was evident in all of the tributes paid to him in that full church. I imagine he would be pleased with how he was remembered.
Posted on May 24, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Life has been busy for me lately with the re:design and content development of my web site, writing and recording podcasts, writing blog posts as well as seeing clients and all of the administration that comes with owning my own business. I just took training on Twitter and Linked-in and feel a bit overwhelmed with all I have to do. I absolutely love it all and feel on track with everything but the volume of work at times seems a bit over the top.
Posted on May 11, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
One of the ways for helping to get you in the moment is to ask:
In this moment – how do I feel? Many of my clients feel angry, frustrated or overwhelmed by the demands put on them by themselves, their families or their workplace. Yet they put on a mask by being nice all of the time, holding it in and not telling the truth about how they are feeling. On the inside they are seething.
Posted on May 11, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
I wanted to check in and let you know how the weekend went. We had a blast. The weather co-operated and we were able to sit outside on our deck, have the doors and windows open and enjoy the sunshine.
Posted on May 8, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
Well, I am so excited. It is my dad’s 85th birthday and I am throwing him a party. Years ago, I would have stressed out for days wanting to do it all, have it be perfect and trying to make the impression on everyone that I have it all handled and can do it all with Martha Steward flair. What pressure it is to try and maintain that level of perfection.
Posted on April 17, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
How often do you reveal your true self to the world? The conversation that many people have with themselves is that “if people really knew who I am, they would not like me”. This is often called “imposter syndrome”. We feel like imposters in our lives because the way we present ourselves to the world has to look a certain way but is not really who we are.
Posted on April 15, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare
It is amazing how many times I don’t give myself permission to do things because of fear of what others may think or expect of me. The thought often comes to mind – what would my mother/husband/kids or friends think about my behavior? After all, we all want to belong and often our fear of being kicked out of our tribe keeps us from letting loose and giving ourselves permission to do exactly what we want to do and be how we want to be.